FaceBook, Google Institute #MeToo Code of Conduct: If You Ask a Woman Out More Than Once, You're a Sexual Harasser

From a WSJ article, behind a paywall:

On one hand, it is true that "harassment" is defined as repeated unwanted contacts, so limiting the contact to "one time" eliminates that.

On the other hand, not all contact is "unwanted," even if the answer to the question about a date is "No." Sometimes a woman is flattered by it, sometimes the time isn't right but she's not closing any doors. Sometimes she's undecided.

A pretty good way to signal that repeated contact is harassment is to explicitly say, "I said no, and do not ask me any more. Further requests will be taken as harassing."

And the trouble with that is that women seem to be saying they don't like that kind of straight-up, here-is-the-rule confrontation, and want things to be more ambiguous and for men to take more subtle, non-confrontational hints.

Which is fine.

But simultaneously, men are not particularly good at taking hints, and actually want clear and unambiguous answers (like even: "and don't ask again" -- at least they know where they stand), and also -- and this is key -- are expected to be the pursuers in any romantic endeavor. Men chase; women do not.

We're in very dangerous shoals when we start attempting as our latest, greatest Social Engineering Project to tame men and make them stop taking the initiative.

Are we simultaneously going to teach women that, for this to work, they in turn must become romantic aggressors themselves? After all, one party has to initiate things here. It can't be that we all start being passive unless we want to be like the Japanese where men and women don't have sex or make babies any longer.

Are women comfortable being Socially Engineered into a state that is uncomfortable to them and in fact runs counter to all of their psychosocial instincts, to be the pursuer in a relationship? To bear the quite-crushing sting of rejection?

Oh, and -- while we're on the topic, why is that when men and women disagree (men are more forward and more direct, women are more receding and more indirect), that it is men who are demanded to behave more like women, and not women who are demanded to be more like men?

After all, as I said, the answer, "No, and I already told you no twice already, and if you ask again, I'll consider it harassing" would not only deter almost all male pursuers but would create a clear legal case of harassment going forward (assuming it was written down in an email or something).

This would fix the problem right quick -- and yet no one's asking women to change their behavior to be more confrontational and direct.

Why not? Well, I'd assume the reason is because women find this level of confrontation and directness to be uncomfortable and contrary to their psychosocial make-up.

And sure, that may be true -- but why then is it such a given that men are expected to subvert/alter all of their own inborn instincts?

I'm not saying women are wrong in their preferred avoid-confrontation-through-hints strategy. I'm saying only that men and women are different (wow, huh?) on this point.

What I'm questioning is why, whenever men and women have a different modus operandi on something, it's the default, unchallenged-to-the-point-of-psychic-hegemony position that men gotta change for the sake of women.

Ummmm... why?

Anyway, the good news is that FaceBook and Google employees will not be having children so their bloodlines will soon be dead.

On the other hand, like most Social Justice Warriors, they believe in sort of Cuckoo strategy as far as childbirth. As cuckoos frequently impregnate other cuckoo's mates and trick other male cuckoos into raising their own get (hence "cuckold," from cuckoo), SJWs choose not to bother with the biological messiness of childbirth, but instead instruct, indoctrinate, and recruit your children into their bizarre cults.

And Google and FaceBook are the perfect perches (ahem) from which to do that.

Meanwhile, Kyle Smith writes that there's a male backlash brewing to #MeToo, starting with men just excluding women from offices and shared travel, for fear of being accused of something.

The thing is, when people are treated as the enemy, they're going to start acting as if they're potential victims caught behind enemy lines, and start avoiding their potential victimizers.

My computer is super-hot and barely responding. I have to shut it down for 45 minutes or so. See you soon.
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posted by Ace at 01:01 PM

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