Buzzfeed: "Blue Flags" Women Should Look for to Let Them Know a Man Is Acceptably Liberal

But... would this liberal man actually be interested in dating a woman, I wonder?

Women Are Sharing How To Detect Whether A Man Is Actually Liberal From A Mile Away, And You're Gonna Want To Take Notes

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Done and done! And I mean done.

Posted on Mar 27, 2026

In 2026, political views are a major indicator of compatibility in dating. But most people aren't exactly disclosing this information on a first date, which means you're often left decoding subtle cues to gauge which side of the aisle someone's on.

This detective work can be exhausting, so we asked members of the BuzzFeed Community to share the telltale signs that a man is liberal.

They mean they were lazy and had no ideas so they asked their commenters to write a post for them. I have to start doing that. I did it a couple of times, years and years ago.

Here are the real bangers of advice women give to other women to deliberately sabotage them and keep them from being sexual competition or attracting any mate at all:

1. "He's definitely left-leaning if he's not afraid of the word tampons."

--Anonymous, 45, Female, Chicago

2. "If a man supports LGBTQIA+ rights. Even better, if he can say another man is hot without fearing people will think he's gay."

--Anonymous, 55, Female, Philadelphia

Right off the bat, they're telling you their ideal male mate is a gay man who is also looking for the ideal male mate. The second one says that she wants her man to go out of his way to signal that he's actually gay.

There are a lot of eligible men who do that. They are all gay.

3. "He doesn't ask for a body count within the first few dates. Any conservative or Trump supporter I've gone on a date with would ask, without fail, within the first few dates -- usually on the first date."

--Anonymous, Female, Florida

I want a man who doesn't care how many dozens of men have been inside men.

Oh I've got just the ticket -- have you considered a gay man?

5. "The biggest blue flag is if he's in therapy and is comfortable working through his issues and trauma with professionals."

--Anonymous, 48, Female, Ohio

I mean... at this point, I would usually start making up my own joke entries, but I don't have to.

Here's another one pining for a gay man:

6. "If he's excited to use toys in bed because it'll help YOU finish. Toys are not his competition! If he's excited for whatever gets you off, that screams 'feminist who cares about his partner's pleasure and is secure in his masculinity.' Two qualities you likely won't find in conservative men."

--Anonymous, 33, Female, Minnesota

"I want a man who really knows his way around a realistic dildo."

Below: Another "I want a man who is essentially a woman" post.

7. "It's always a good sign when he has close positive platonic relationships with women. My now husband is very close with a female friend, had a close female mentor at work that he spoke positively about, and spoke with a lot of respect and fondness about multiple female friends."

"He had close guy friends too, but honestly, his close female friendships helped him grow emotionally and communicate well, so it wasn't expected for me to be the only one to meet all his emotional support needs. When we all hung out, there was never a whisper of anything sexual, and he was always respectful of everyone. He also has a good relationship with his sister and mom."

--Anonymous

Okay so a guy who has a large harem of girl friends is either a real player or he's, you know.

8. "Stanley Cups scream liberal to me, for some reason."

--Anonymous

Stanley cups are those large oversized drinking cups that became a huge trend due to women bloggers asking Stanley to make them in pretty colors. They had been intended for men working outside in construction or jobs like that, so Stanley thought that slate gray was all the color needed. No, these women bloggers told them, women will buy them if you make them in pretty colors.

Stanley gave in, just to shut them up, and for once, loud-mouthed demanding broads were right. Trend-chasing easily-influenceable women who spend all their time on the internet lifestyle-comparing with other women turned them into a national craze.

I'm not saying you have to be that kind of person to own one. Let me just admit this so that you can all make fun of me and add it to my list of heterosexuality-doubts: I own one too. (Honestly, it is too big. It really should be used... by dudes working outside for whom an oversized cumbersome drinking cup is worth it because they are hundreds of yards from a fountain or convenience store. I only use it to try to get in my daily creatine.)

Anyway, by saying that a man should really be into the nearly exclusively female trend of 2019 of buying Stanely cups in pretty colors, yet another woman says that what she looks for in a man is another woman.

9. "I think a good indicator that a man is liberal-leaning is if they don't shy away from conversations about women's health, like someone's period. Even better if they're comfortable buying tampons for their girlfriend, wife, daughter, etc. Now, could a person with those qualities also be conservative? Sure, but I have not met any yet. Oh, and attending International Women's Day events in support of their girlfriend, wife, or daughter is also nice."

--Anonymous, 33, Female, Canada

Literally every other post is a wish for a man to be just another girlfriend -- who treats at dinner -- or a gay friend.

10. "He doesn't get mad at women when you drop hard facts about misogyny and the microaggressions women deal with frequently."

--Anonymous

"I want to pop off all the time and never be challenged! Because I want 'equality' in relationship where my word is his command as if he were a subordinate!"

11. "If he wears his sweater around his shoulders, he's probably liberal."

--Anonymous, 45, Female, New Jersey

Again, this is a preppy woman's kind of look. Well, preppy women, and Jm J. Bullock from Too Close for Comfort.

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13. "Literally any complaint about the economy and prices is a blue flag in my opinion. I live with a lot of MAGA who refuse to admit they're paying almost twice as much for groceries now than they did under Biden. This is how I figured out my neighbors across the street are Democrats, too. They were trying the same litmus test on me, saying, 'Oof, these tariffs are killing me.' I was like, 'YES, THEY ABSOLUTELY ARE.'"

"People who aren't MAGA don't go on the offense or make excuses for the state of the economy right now. We know Trump is screwing it up and don't care to save face for him."

--Anonymous, 31, Female, Colorado

Just curious: Was this also a Blue Flag when inflation hit over 20% under Biden or nah? Nah, right?

14. "A big blue flag for me is when I tell a man I'm a mechanical engineer and they don't act disgusted, or tell me it's a man's job, or that I'm too manly. Conservatives never respond positively to the fact that I'm an engineer; liberals always seem genuinely interested, ask questions, and are complimentary. Conservatives turn it into a pissing contest by suddenly asking about cars, machinery, or other random things, and get upset when I know the answers."

--Anonymous, 42, Woman, Arizona

90% of modern "feminism" is just the demand that anytime a woman says something, a man agrees and praises her for saying it. They are very, very keen on this point: Anything they think, say, or do must be validated and praised.

This is such a distinctly feminine form of narcissism that it was noted 23 years ago by the left-wing Onion, back when it was occasionally funny.

We haven't had a "look for a gay man as a mate" one in a while. Let's fix that.

17. "Big blue flag is when he's flattered when a gay man flirts with him because he knows most gay men only pick cute straight men."

--Anonymous, 38, Female, US

Back to "I want a man who is actually a woman:"

18. "He knows a few (or more) female professional athletes and their stats -- not just that they are beautiful."

--Anonymous, 50, Female, Tacoma, WA

This is all deeply narcissistic stuff. I'm sure a lot of men would prefer it if their girl was into sports or video games -- but they do not demand it as a litmus test for compatibility.

20. "Liberal guys generally try to pronounce uncommon names correctly and go out of their way to do so. This shows that they value people and respect the way they see/identify themselves, and usually this transfers to any person who uses non-traditional pronouns (they/them, etc.) See how often Trump and other Republicans purposely mispronounce the names of people they don't like or respect? It's the same for most conservative men, I find."

--Anonymous, 42, Male, San Antonio, TX

Oh a male is adding what he looks for in a man. Finally, some honesty. Again: "I want a man who is not just a gay man but the gayest of gay men."

Another repeat: "I want a man who narcissistically and pointlessly spends a lot of time and money on therapy like I do."

21. "My partner is willing and able to discuss his emotions in depth, asks for (and respects) my opinions, shows genuine respect and care towards everyone in his orbit, is kindly curious about everyone he meets, and strives every day to become a better man and person through therapy and self-reflection. He takes in the world around him and thinks about how he can help everyone have a better life experience. It's not all about him!"

--Anonymous, 34, Female, WA

It should never be all about him. It must always be all about me.

25. "The guy I'm dating said something along the lines of, 'Can you believe what that orange f*ck has said lately?' I literally lit up inside!

--heroiccan516

Oh my days (I keep hearing that from British people and I want to use it instead of "OMG"), find another OCD obsession. You're so boring and basic.

Why can't he just be a gay and/or a woman?

26. "Nail polish on men usually indicates a progressive mindset. It's an expression of self that shouldn't be reserved for women. It's also a sign that they are secure enough in themselves to be expressive, not bottling things up until they can't cope."

--chilltable846

Hey liberal ladies, have I got the perfect emotionally-incontinent, obsessive, vindictive, politics-obsessed cuck dreamboat for you!!!

I bet he's worn black polish on his nails a fair few times.

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